tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4568250349175047958.post799258259507311947..comments2024-01-07T06:51:59.504-06:00Comments on Finding the Balance: kindness.Amyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11270690264528059330noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4568250349175047958.post-14581330919862419962010-11-22T14:21:20.694-06:002010-11-22T14:21:20.694-06:00amy-great idea. and i'm sure totally appropria...amy-great idea. and i'm sure totally appropriate for YOUR kids on that day. maybe you wouldn't do it today (maybe you would). but either way, it was a great choice by their mom at that moment. life's not always fair and there's NOTHING wrong with someone else getting rewarded in front of you! you are a GREAT mom!!!Courtneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15081538432594107207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4568250349175047958.post-16402147252841275192010-11-21T22:53:42.882-06:002010-11-21T22:53:42.882-06:00Anonymous....who are you? I bet you are some tree...Anonymous....who are you? I bet you are some tree hugging, cat lady that has 35 ceramic dolls in your house. I bet they each have a sucker, too. First, you give parenting advice and then tell another how to think. Why do you think we care? She was simply stating what was going on. <br />Instead of bothering her, why don't you go to Sam's club. I hear they have a sale on big bags of Meow Mix and suckers. If you are going to give advice, at least have the courage and courtesy to reveal yourself.Anonymous Mockernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4568250349175047958.post-81962129152611406632010-11-21T21:36:02.032-06:002010-11-21T21:36:02.032-06:00Frau, I live a life without my only sibling as a r...Frau, I live a life without my only sibling as a result of a car accident, I'm so grateful my parents allowed us to work through our normal sibling stuff on our own(yes, we were occasionally nasty to one another), I had and have the fondest affection and greatest respect for my sibling and thankfully those are my memories, not angry ones or guilty ones remembering missing out on a sucker as a punishement for being a "normal" kid. <br />MJAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4568250349175047958.post-88489228141355651082010-11-21T19:51:32.917-06:002010-11-21T19:51:32.917-06:00One of the most memorable "lessons" in s...One of the most memorable "lessons" in sibling kindness I learned as a child involved my mom sitting us down and asking us to imagine life without the other one..."what if you woke up one day and realized he was gone...forever?" I remember both of us crying, hugging and apologizing. Kind of dramatic, but memorable...I think I was about Sophie's age.Frauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17662732803080806652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4568250349175047958.post-76025898083106180222010-11-21T12:50:43.743-06:002010-11-21T12:50:43.743-06:00We did a similar thing over the summer. My boys se...We did a similar thing over the summer. My boys seemed to fight over everything!! They had to get 5circles to complete a caterpillar. Everytime they did something nice they got a circle. The first person to fill out their caterpillar got to do something special with mommy or daddy. It was really hard the first time that one of them didn't get to do the special thing, but eventually they both go to do it....but they each had to earn it. After awhile we didn't need the circles, they got along with eachother (for the most part) really well & it has stayed that way. I think what you are doing is a great idea. Kids have to learn about consequences at some point or another. =)Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04667745609344087244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4568250349175047958.post-16950620146948645202010-11-21T08:53:56.006-06:002010-11-21T08:53:56.006-06:00I think some of the problems of society stem from ...I think some of the problems of society stem from kids that have not learned to lose- not learned to take resposibility for their actions-knowing someone will give in to them anyway. Some of life's lessons are hard.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4568250349175047958.post-21088179885756960592010-11-20T23:28:36.671-06:002010-11-20T23:28:36.671-06:00We have done that before- have the girls say somet...We have done that before- have the girls say something nice to each other- something they like about the other one. They end up hugging, and sometimes we have to wait until they can think of something that doesn't have to do with, "I like your hair." You're doing a good job.Chad and Jodyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13222333165006316950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4568250349175047958.post-78245322580321040582010-11-20T23:08:26.658-06:002010-11-20T23:08:26.658-06:00But since the lesson is about being kind and think...But since the lesson is about being kind and thinking about others... don't you think I would do some pre-teaching about NOT flaunting it in his/her sibling's face?Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11270690264528059330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4568250349175047958.post-1262027100331068252010-11-20T22:52:37.183-06:002010-11-20T22:52:37.183-06:00Yikes, I'm pretty sure I wouldn't be able ...Yikes, I'm pretty sure I wouldn't be able to give just one sucker and have the winner flaunt it in his/her sibling's face!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4568250349175047958.post-23034890513209062532010-11-20T22:44:15.040-06:002010-11-20T22:44:15.040-06:00You are doing just fine!
And I think learning how...You are doing just fine! <br />And I think learning how to handle disappointments (i.e. not always winning)is a good thing to teach our children. Even if it's being disappointed in yourself and your actions.flower power mommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06842024984467546082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4568250349175047958.post-55286607839369268032010-11-20T16:32:19.992-06:002010-11-20T16:32:19.992-06:00Yes... already thought of that. Thank you, Anonymo...Yes... already thought of that. Thank you, Anonymous. <br /><br />But no... depending on attitudes and choices that might be made, they may not both deserve to be winners. That would be part of the lesson.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11270690264528059330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4568250349175047958.post-46467679455147853292010-11-20T14:27:02.447-06:002010-11-20T14:27:02.447-06:00you better find another sucker, they both should b...you better find another sucker, they both should be winnersAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com